Let’s talk about tipping at weddings. It’s one of the most debated and misunderstood topics in wedding planning, and dare I say, there’s a lot of misinformation about tipping for wedding. Can I be honest? Couples are often left confused about what’s standard, what’s optional, and what’s overkill. So, let’s clear things up with some straightforward advice on tipping wedding vendors.
Misconceptions About Tipping
You Don’t Have to Tip the Owner (Instead consider who you’re working with during the process)
Many people think you shouldn’t tip the owner of the business, but that really depends on the situation. I’ve had weddings where I deal directly with small or boutique businesses, so they happen to be the owners. At this point, they’re just offering a service like anybody else. When satisfied with the service and outcomes, leaving a tip is another gesture of appreciation. And in case the owner of the place is not there, you can leave tips for their staff.
But what about your planner? So, some people say you don’t really need a wedding planner tip, but here’s the deal: Your wedding planner is probably the vendor you’ve been working with the longest, sometimes for over a year. Even though tipping for a wedding isn’t a must if they’ve nailed their job, if they’ve really gone the extra mile or totally exceeded what you expected, giving them a tip is a sweet way to show your appreciation.
Best Practices for Tipping
Here’s a simple breakdown of tipping practices wedding for some important wedding vendors:
1. Catering and Bartending Teams
- What to know: Catering and bartending tip is usually the biggest team at the event, and they often work long hours to serve your guests.
- Check your contract: Some contracts include a “service charge” that covers tips. If it does, you don’t need to tip extra. If it doesn’t, tipping for the wedding is a nice gesture.
- How much to tip: Aim for 15-20% of the total food and drink cost or $50–$100 per person, depending on how good the service is.
Extra Tip: It’s a good idea to give tips in cash so the staff can take it home immediately. Always remember, a tip is a way to show appreciation for their hard work!
2. Drop-off Providers
These are drop-off providers, including cake bakers, florists, or equipment rental companies.
- Rules of Thumb: Tipping is not anticipated, but it is a nice gesture to tip for the delivery. If they go the extra mile, $10 to $25 is a nice gesture of thanks. For instance, if they come early or set everything up with extra care, then a little tip is a nice thank-you.
- Remember, if the delivery is especially helpful or timely, a little extra can go a long way.
3. Hair and Makeup Artists
You’re fully expected to tip at beauty services, just as you are at a salon.
- Rules of Thumb: You should tip about 15% to 25% of what the service actually costs. This is an expression of appreciation for their work and the result.
- If they do a fantastic job or they stay extra long to ensure that you are satisfied, it’s wonderful to tip on the high end.
4. Transportation Drivers
It’s normal to give a tip of about 15-20% to your transportation drivers wedding tip, like for wedding shuttles or limos. This shows appreciation for their service. If the driver goes above and beyond, feel free to give a little extra!
- Tipping for a wedding helps ensure a smooth and happy experience on your special day.
A Few General Rules of Thumb
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Tip if They Serve You Directly
Gratuity wedding vendors may start by working behind the scenes, but on the big day, many of them will be helping you directly. When they do, it’s nice to give a tip.
2. Ask About Tipping Expectations
It’s okay to ask your vendors what they expect for tips. Many vendors will mention it in their contracts or FAQs, so don’t hesitate to check.
3. Think Like You’re at Starbucks (But With Balance)
We all know tipping for a wedding can feel overwhelming these days, with every purchase asking for one. But weddings are different. The work is hard and service-focused. If you’re unsure about tipping for a wedding, a small gesture goes a long way. Here’s something I remind myself when I feel frustrated—if I were working at a coffee shop for an hourly wage, I’d appreciate a tip too.
Bonus Tip:
If you can’t afford to tip a lot, don’t stress. A heartfelt thank you and a positive review can also make a big difference for your vendors.
Want More Guidance?
We understand that tipping for the wedding can feel like another thing to worry about in your wedding budget. That’s why we give all our clients a Wedding Tipping Guide, which includes suggested tip amounts and a helpful cheat sheet for the big day. Want to get one? Click here to download it.
Tipping is a way to say thank you for your hard work, but it shouldn’t cause stress during your wedding planning. With a little planning (and help from us), everyone will feel appreciated. We’re here to make sure you don’t miss any details so you can enjoy your special day. Let us help you keep everything smooth and stress-free!
